A dominant story

January 5, 2018 | Author: Anonymous | Category: Arts & Humanities, Gender Studies, Human Sexuality
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Preventing Sexual Violence on Campuses Across Ohio

Alex Leslie Men Can Stop Rape Cleveland Rape Crisis Center

Welcome • What is Men Can Stop Rape? • Positive approach • Focus on Masculinity • Sustained Work

• What is Primary Prevention?

Why is rape also a men’s issue?

• Men rape • Men are raped • Men know survivors • Men are confined by rape, too • Men Can Stop Rape

Dominant Stories of Masculinity A dominant story as it relates to manhood is a narrative representing the values and messages associated with a shared understanding of what it means to be a man as defined by traditional masculinity.

Examples of Dominant Stories from Maxim Magazine Cover Headlines Sex Express! How to spot the girl with the condom in her purse

Two Billion Women… time to

Mind Control Made Easy!

get busy!

22 ways to make people do whatever you want

Three Extra Inches Please!

Filthy Stinking Rich

Can surgery turn your toothpick into a baseball bat?

Cash so quick it’s like stealing!

Any Woman Anytime

Border town brawlers fight for cash and glory

8 pick-up tricks than never fail (we bar-tested ‘em)

Mexican Gladiators

Take Down a Terrorist! The tools and skills you need to take control now!

Real Man & the Dominant Story • • • • • • • • • •

Smart Rich No self control Has an army to back him, is an “Army of One” Brags Physically strong Takes care of his own Married Wise Straight/Homophobic

• • • • • • • • • • •

White/Black Self-made Shows no emotions Surrounded by women Lots of sex Demands respect Takes up space Invulnerable Charitable Has power over others Proud to be an American

Definition of the Dominant Story of Traditional Masculinity A dominant story as it relates to manhood is a narrative representing the values and messages associated with a shared understanding of what it means to be a man as defined by traditional masculinity.

The “Strongest Man You Know” Exercise • Who is the Strongest Man you personally know or knew? • What are the attributes that made him a Strong Man? • How did he show strength through his interactions with other people?

Appreciating the Positive Counterstories that Already Exist Strong men are… • • • • • • • • • • • • •

Considerate Caring Good fathers Good partners Able to Take care of us Good listeners Empathetic Able to Provide for us Able to Overcome hardship Generous Able to change Able to admit mistakes Able to stand up for what they believe

Using the Counterstory to Overcome Barriers and Challenge the Dominant Stories A counterstory is a narrative that resists the values and expectations of masculinity’s dominant stories and therefore represents a moral shift. --Adapted from Hilde Nelson’s Damaged Identities, Narrative Repair

The Masculinity Tightrope… Dominant Stories Tough Unemotional Always in charge Using force Does whatever it takes

Counterstories Responsible Owns up to mistakes Sacrifices for others Good listeners Able to change

The Strength Approach Moving beyond just physical strength to include…

…STRENGTH as speaking from the heart

…STRENGTH as speaking up for what’s right

…STRENGTH as a commitment to others and community

MCSR’s Approach: The Social-Ecological Model

Bystander Intervention

What do you think? ___% of college men “report some level of discomfort when men use terms like ‘bitch’ and ‘slut’ to refer to women.” What do you think the percentage is?

What do you think?

0%

25%

50%

75%

100%

81%

*Berkowitz, 2003

Bystander Interventions You are at a party at a friend’s house and have had a few drinks. You see a guy you know about to go upstairs with a woman who is visibly drunk. How would you want the men you work with to respond in this situation? What would YOU tell them to do in that situation?

Bystander Interventions • • • • • •

Challenge and confront Clarification and question Involve authorities Invoke position and responsibility Group intervention Discuss consequences

Intervention Continuum

What can men do…? • Listen (to women) and talk (to men) • Be an ally • Speak up and speak out

• Challenge victim blaming • Educate yourself further • Know your local resources

Thank you!

www.mencanstoprape.org

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