m3-ppt - Let Me Be Me

Module 3: Prevention of becoming a bully

Learning outcomes of Module 3 1)

Learning to empathise with others

2)

Learning how to reduce and control anger and aggression

3)

Learning how to develop social skills

4)

Learning possible consequences of cyber-bullying

3.1 Raising of empathy

Activity 1: Characteristics of feelings

Activity 2: Exclusion

Activity 3: Dear Diary

Summary: raising of empathy  Try to identify the feelings of the other person.  Keep these feelings in mind when you are with them.  Try to see things from others’ perspective.  Show understanding for others’ perspective. Don’t try to get your way at any costs.  Show interest in the other person.  Listen to the other person (eyecontact, showing that you are listening).

Evaluation: 3.1 Raising of empathy

3.2 Reduction of anger and aggression

Activity 1: Characteristics of anger and aggression

Summary: characteristics of anger and aggression Changes of the body:  Hands: moist palms, shaking, clenched into a fist  Stomach: pressure, feeling of sickness  Breathing: faster or heavily, hard to breathe  Chest: pressure, narrowness, stitching  Throat: having a lump in the throat, dry throat  Voice: trembling, hoarse, loud, shrill or becoming silent  Eyes: seeing red, blurred vision, squinting  Forehead: frowning, getting moist  Head: pressure, dizziness, headache, sensation of heat, feeling like it’s going to explode

Activity 2: Controlling of anger

Summary: behaviour when feeling anger When you feel anger, try to calm yourself down:  change location or leave the provoking situation  choose your individual “Cool-Down-Sentence” (e.g. “stay calm”, “I can do this”) and repeat it

 distract yourself: do something you like, do physical exercises or think of positive experiences  try to relax, do breathing exercises  count to 10

Activity 3: Personal space

Summary: personal space  Each person has an individual personal space surrounding him/her like a bubble. It is needed for feeling comfortable and safe.  If somebody enters the space, different feelings can occur: fear, but also anger or aggression.  Keep this personal space in mind when meeting someone.

Evaluation:

3.2 Reduction of aggression

3.3 Social skills training

Activity 1: Hot chair

Activity 2: Role play 1

Activity 3: Role play 2

Summary: social skills training Characteristics of self-confident behaviour:  Posture: Stand tall, head held high, chin up, shoulders back, feet firmly on the ground. Make eye-contact with the other person.  Thoughts: Encourage yourself with positive and realistic thoughts before entering a challenging situation! Tell yourself: “I can do this!” “I’m not afraid!”

 Expression: Use I-statements! Express your needs and feelings! Be precise and explicit and tell it with a loud and clear, calm voice.

Evaluation: Social skills training

3.4 Effects of cyber bullying

Activity 1: Discussion of video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bg xNItGmiC4

Activity 2: Discussion of video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ciZ KNARbkXY

Activity 3: Legislation

Summary: effects of cyber-bullying Consequences for the victim:

 reduced self-esteem  feelings of frustration, anger, sadness, hopelessness, loneliness, depression  sleeping problems, health problems

 suicidal thoughts and behaviours, self-harm Cyber-bullying may affect a person for a long time, long after the bullying stops.

Summary: effects of cyber-bullying Legal consequences for the bully:

 Cyber-bullying is an offence.  There are no specific cyber-bullying laws, but they are handled like insults, threats or stalking.  Also, in some countries you can be fined for spreading of photos and videos.

Evaluation: 3.4 Effects of cyber-bullying

Evaluation: Module 3: Prevention of becoming a bully

Evaluation activity: Mood barometer