What is Respect? (For Lower Sec)

WOODCUTTER One day, a woodcutter took his grandson into the forest for his first experience in selecting and cutting oak trees. These they would later sell to the boat builders.

Adapted from sunday slides from sandeep

As they walked along, the woodcutter explained that the purpose of each tree is contained in its natural shape: some are straight for planks, some have the proper curves for the ribs of a boat, and some are tall for masts.

The woodcutter told his grandson that by paying attention to the details of each tree and with experience in recognising these characteristics, someday he too might become the woodcutter of the forest.

A little way into the forest, the grandson saw an old oak tree that had never been cut. The boy asked his grandfather if he could cut it down because it was useless for boat building there were no straight limbs, the trunk was short and gnarled and the curves were going the wrong way.

"We could cut it down for firewood," the grandson said. "At least then it will be of some use to us." The woodcutter replied that for now they should start their work cutting the proper trees for the boat builders; maybe later they could return to the old oak tree.

After a few hours of cutting the huge trees, the grandson grew tired and asked if they could stop for a rest in some cool shade. The woodcutter took his grandson over to the old oak tree, where they rested against its trunk in the cool shade beneath its twisted limbs.

After they had rested for a while, the woodcutter explained to his grandson the necessity of attentive awareness and recognition of everything in the forest and in the world.

Some things are readily apparent, like the tall, straight trees; other things are less apparent, requiring closer attention, like recognition of the proper curves in the limbs. Some things might initially appear to have no purpose at all, like the gnarled old oak tree.

The woodcutter stated, "You must learn to pay careful attention every day so you can recognise and discover the purpose and importance of every creation.

For it is this old oak tree, which you so quickly deemed useless except for firewood, that now allows us to rest against its trunk amidst the coolness of its shade.

Remember, not everything is as it first appears. Be patient, pay attention, recognise and discover."

WOODCUTTER

Moral of the story?

Everyone has his own strength and usefulness, we must recognise and respect that.

Adapted from sunday slides from sandeep

Respect • • • • •

What is Respect? Are you Respectful? The Golden Rule The Love/Respect Axis Respect – Self, Others, Property

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RESPECT • Respect is HUGE. If you don’t respect yourself, then why should others respect you? • Self respect is a goal that everyone should aim for because it ultimately sets your mind, mood, body and health to SUCCESS.

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Are you Respectful? • Am I considerate? • Do I treat them the way that I would want to be treated? • Do I accept personal differences or get upset about them instead? • Am I civil? • Am I courteous?

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Are you Respectful? • Do I try my best to be dignified? • Am I willing to solve problems? • Do I solve them without violence or hurtful language? • Do I embarrass anyone on purpose?

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Are you Respectful? • Do I intentionally try to anger, frustrate, or hurt anyone? • Why is it that I think that I am a respectful person? • Am I a team player? • Do I work well with others?

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The Golden Rule “Do unto others as you want them to do to you.” You should only expect as much respect as you are giving.

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The Love/Respect Axis

“Human beings have a host of emotional needs - for love and recognition, for belonging and identity, for purpose and meaning to lives. If all these needs had to be subsumed in one word, it might be respect” William Ury The Third Side

Respect – Self, Others, Property

Respectful Teenager Communication with Parents

Basics of Interacting with Parents Adapted from Shabbar Suterwala

EVERY PARENT WAS A TEEN ONCE Parents must remember how they interacted with their parents.

DON’T TAKE YOUR PARENTS FOR GRANTED Remember that your parents are always going to be there for you, come what may.

LISTEN

You may not necessarily agree with your parents opinions and ideas but at least give them a fair hearing. They have experience and reasons behind all that they have to say.

EXPRESS GRATITUDE You may not even notice them but you will know how much they care for you.

EMPATHISE Be aware of your parents’ anxieties and fears. It will go a long way in helping you sort out issues.

PARTICIPATE & INTERACT Find opportunities to help in and around at home, a dinner conversation is one that can cement relationship with parents.

TAKE CHARGE Show your initiative and your parents will give you the opportunity to prove yourself.

TURN FAILURE INTO SUCCESS

Just because you could not achieve some milestones your parents expected you to; it does not mean you are a failure and it does not mean they have stopped loving you.

LOVE – TRUST - RESPECT Nothing is worth more than gaining the Love, Trust and Respect of your parents.

Adapted from Shabbar Suterwala

RESPECTING YOUR PARENTS • When you respect your parents, it also means you are mature in thought. • It will also show the way you interact with others.

RESPECTING YOUR PARENTS

If you can’t respect your parents, you can’t respect others too, especially yourself

REFERENCES • http://www.slideworld.com/slideshow.aspx/wood cutter-story-ppt-2766196 • http://leaders-workshop.blogspot.com • http://www.wikihow.com/Respect-Parents

• http://www.lovemarks.com/?pageID=20040

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT (Production by Woodgrove Secondary School and supported by Singapore Kindness Movement) Many Thanks to the following: 1.

Mdm Sung Mee Har (Principal)

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Mdm Masayu Mahmud (Vice-Principal)

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Mr Tan Siong Leong (HOD of Character & Citizenry Education)

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Mdm Jacqueline Chan Yen Ling (Advisor)

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Mdm Salimah Salim and Mdm Chong Woon Chin (Teachers In-Charge)

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Mdm Rhoda Fu Lok Man & Ms Asvinder Kaur (Teachers In-Charge of Drama)

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Nurul Alysha Bte Hazudin, Muhammad Zulkhairulnizam B Zin, Dona Elicia Rae Wisidagama, Nur Atika Khairina Bte K, Siti Nur Diyanah Bte Ahmad M, Tan Sze Yee Jasper, Engku Nur Saidah Bte Engku I, Nurdiyana Bte Zaili (Actors & Actresses involved in the drama skit)

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Yeo Ray Ying, Ang Lee Yi, Hannah Nyanavoli, Nur Syasya Bte Supardi, Yan Bai Hui Geraldine, Brian Soh Yong Hua, Joven Thong Jie Wen, Nurul Syafina Bte Hairudin, Muhammed Nizam B Kamarudeen, Hani Zarifah Bte Mohammad J, Nurul Zarifah Bte Zainodin, Ng Zhi Hong, Noor Shiddiqah Bte Mohd S (Drama Crew)

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