What is Self-Respect? (For Upper Sec)

SELF-RESPECT What is it? The knowledge of one's own worth, valuing one's self; pride It embraces more than just what your parents and teachers expect of you Where we have respect, we avoid degrading, insulting or injuring, and we treat every one and every thing with consideration

SELF-RESPECT • show respect for views with which you disagree and speak in a non-threatening way • To create open, trusting relationships with fellowmembers of the community • Respect invites respect… Disrespect invites disrespect • Mutual respect allows a person to respect others and to practise self-respect

PERCEPTIONS AND SKILLS

The 7 Significant Perceptions and Skills to cultivate self-respect

7 WAYS TO IMPROVE SELF-RESPECT 1. Personal Capabilities • “I am capable.”

2. Relationships • “I contribute in meaningful ways and I am genuinely needed.”

7 WAYS TO IMPROVE SELF-RESPECT 3. Power over your own life • “I can influence what happens to me.”

4. Intrapersonal skills • “I understand and can relate to others’ emotions” o

The ability to understand emotions, to use that understanding and develop self-discipline and selfcontrol and to learn from experience

7 WAYS TO IMPROVE SELF-RESPECT 5. Interpersonal skills • “I am a team player.” o

To work well with others through communicating, cooperating, negotiating, sharing empathising, and most of all, listening.

6. Systemic skills (affecting or connecting to the whole of something) • “I am responsible and honest.” o

Being able to respond to the limits and consequences of everyday life with responsibility and integrity

7 WAYS TO IMPROVE SELF-RESPECT 7. Judgmental skills • “I can assess situations and act accordingly.” o

Being able to use wisdom and evaluate situations according to values

TEST FOR SELF-RESPECT Action / Choice

Comment

Do you just do the bare minimum for what is asked of you or do you put in your best effort because you want to be the best that you can be?

“Am I worth the effort?” or “I want to respect myself and I want others to respect me. I am worth the respect!”

TEST FOR SELF-RESPECT Action / Choice “I can’t do this!” or “I can learn to do this!”

Comment Whatever I believe in, it becomes true because I expect it to be true and so behave in a way that will make it happen.

TEST FOR SELF-RESPECT Action / Choice Do you capitalise your own name? Eg. John vs john

Comment By capitalising my own name, it shows I respect myself and that I am important.

TEST FOR SELF-RESPECT Action / Choice

Comment

“This is too difficult!” or “This “Am I worth the effort to do is difficult but it will be this?” beneficial for me.”

TEST FOR SELF-RESPECT Action / Choice You do things to hurt yourself or do you consciously avoid things known to damage a person’s body or mind.

Comment “Do I care about what happens to me or my mind?”

TEST FOR SELF-RESPECT Action / Choice

Comment

Most of the time, you would “Do I care only about having rather have fun than growth or fun or in being a person of vice versa. high quality?”

TEST FOR SELF-RESPECT Action / Choice You spend most of your free time watching TV/videos or doing things that will help you in your overall growth as an individual?

Comment “I just want to be entertained.” or “My future is important to me and I want to be wellprepared for the rest of my life and be the best that I can be.”

References • www.eps.vic.edu.au/iande/posdis • http://home.earthlink.net/~bmgei/educate/docs/ motivate/respect/respect2.htm

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